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[quote=Anonymous]We've been married almost 30 years. That's a long time. We've had our share of problems, and our share of successes. I can't say we are 100% happily married because there is one aspect of our marriage that bothers me quite a bit, but I also would not say we are unhappily married.

I see the value in being married and having a partner. I feel that value. At the same time, sure, meh is right! But I want to have a partner as I age. I like having somebody to DO things with. I want my kids to have a comfortable family. None of this is at the expense of my happiness - I am doing what I need to do to be happy (I'm investing time in family and friends. I've got hobbies. I invite DH to do what I do.)

I don't FEEL committed to marriage, but I am ACTING as if I am committed to marriage, if that makes sense. I don't feel love for my partner, but I'm acting as if I do. And overall, that results in a peaceful life, easy harmony, and satisfaction with what I have.  I do have my moments, as we all do (I'm a perimenopausal woman, I mean, you know how it is), but overall I'm able to maintain happiness.[/quote]

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