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OP here.  Thanks for the replies!  I agree that I think something else is going on besides the small house.  I actually suspect that her husband is dealing with some kind mental illness, but I don’t know her that well, so she hasn’t said anything.

The issue isn’t that she doesn’t reciprocate.  She has taken my child to the zoo a couple of times.   It’s that sometimes I have something else I want to do during the time the boys make plans to get together.

I’m okay leaving my son (9) alone, but I don’t want to leave both boys on their own for more than a few minutes.  
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If you suspect her DH is having some mental health issues, then maybe the time your child spends with hers isn’t the time for you to schedule your other things. She may truly need the companionship from you during her time out of the house with her child. Does your child have drop off playdates with any other friends that you could use for running your own errands instead of this one friend?[/quote]

Sorry, disagree. It sounds like non-hosting mom has been very nice and reciprocated with zoo trips and does not need to host in her home if there is a mental health situation going on that would maybe make it unsafe for OP’s son to visit or would reveal too much of their family’s privacy. But I draw the line at expecting OP to rearrange her schedule/errands/life in an inconvenient way when the other family hasn’t even explained there is a crisis or extenuating circumstance. I’m not saying they owe her disclosure, but I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect her to drop everything and repeatedly inconvenience herself without an understanding that there’s a real need or reason outside of the other kid just begging to go to OP’s house all the time. [/quote]

Who said OP needs to rearrange anything or drop everything? If they are invited to do something at a time that doesn’t work for her she can simply decline the invitation. [/quote]

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