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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is your house neat and all pulled together? They may have a small house that’s a mess and are embarrassed. Once I had kids my tidy tiny apartment without clutter became a disaster zone. I had some friends with equally messy houses and they would come over. But if your house looks instagram ready, we would meet at a park.[/quote]

Oof, this can be a factor. We live in a small 19th century rowhome that doesn't have much storage (only two closets in the entire house, no garage or space for a shed outdoors), and it just never looks as neat as the homes of our friends that are much bigger and newer. They generally have more kids' stuff than we do, they just also have more mudrooms, closets, and finished basements to hide it in.

That said, it doesn't stop me from having just the kids over. It does make me less likely to host larger all-ages gatherings if we don't know the family well.

But OP, playmates are for the kids, not for babysitting. If you feel like they're being used for babysitting (the other family is asking you to host at very specific times, the kids aren't enjoying them), feel free to say "no" or "we can't have anyone over that day because of my schedule, but Jr could go over to your place or the park with you if you want."

If you're actually doing the inviting because the kids are asking, and just upset that they're not reciprocating...just get over it? Be grateful for your big house and flexibility and host as much as you are comfortable doing to foster your kids' friendships. [/quote]

OP here.  I don’t feel like I’m being used.  
I am being asked to host at specific times because the kids have other stuff going on.

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Just say it doesn’t work with your schedule if it doesn’t.  This family needs some grace from the sound of it.  I wouldn’t look for them to reciprocate.  I honestly never care about that, some families have issues that make it hard for them.[/quote]

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