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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Boy these comments are harsh.  Op is pregnant and going rhrpugh a rough time and husband is raising the issue. This forum is full of people who can be incredibly hard on people so ignore those voices.

One thing is:  don't quit your job.  Babies are expensive and even if you found a new job you likely wouldn't qualify for any maternity leave or protections like FMLA.  Having a new baby is also a time of upheaval and change in relationships and you don't want to be setting certain precedents now.

I'd have an open conversation with him about how this makes you uncomfortable and you don't want to quit your job.  Everyone has complaints about work but we do need to pay our bills.  Especially at a time when it would be very hard to find a new job, sometimes you just have to put your head down and get through it.  When you're more settled post kids then you may have the space to job hunt.[/quote]

Money isn’t really an issue for us. We have our jobs and other streams of income. It’s about giving up my independence and my sole identity turning into a wife and mom. My husband has always been a more traditional man but supported me working. [/quote]

I mean to be blunt sometimes someone will use a shift like this to get what they want.  His motivations here may be based on his traditionalist and not what is best for you.  It is definitely not unheard of for men to change after marriage or kids because the woman is more locked in and committed.

So definitely talk to him about this.[/quote]

I can see this happening as OP has mentioned - she doesn’t want to give up her independence and he’s more of a traditional man - ie wants wife home ..

Slippery slope.. As you married him knowing this.

I’d quit the complaining about work convos and discuss roles once that child arrives and moving forward

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