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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ll tell you my perspective, as someone who left a cheater:

A) The devastation and betrayal was and is something that changed me on a cellular level.  It changed my worldview forever.

B) There was no way I would ever have been able to love my spouse the way I had.

That said, MOST people in my life encouraged me to stay with my former spouse.  I was told that people make mistakes blah blah blah.  We had a toddler and I was pregnant when I found out. I left when my new baby was six months old.

The fallout was horrific and I am truly traumatized by the process of divorce.  My former spouse further financially abused me and used his (then) superior financial position to humiliate me and take advantage of my vulnerability, particularly in the court system which rewards the party with more money by default.

He got custody. I got no retirement etc in the divorce and lost every single proceeding.  I filed bankruptcy.  I am STILL paying for his sins/the dissolution of our marriage and we separated eight years ago.

Logistically and otherwise, I DO understand why people stay.  My tale is an example of everything that could have gone wrong, going wrong.  But I definitely could not stay.  [/quote]

It’s the plot of “Anxious People.” 
 I’m sorry that happened to you.  At least there is some validation in having left him.  He sounds like a truly horrible person.  [/quote]

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