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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you write about this over and over and over again, and I recognize your posts and story every time. Jeff even wrote about you being a lost soul. Why do you do this to yourself?[/quote]

DP. Even if that's the case, maybe having a bit of sympathy would be wise? if she's making the same post repeatedly she's probably attempting to process things and make a wise choice, and still somewhat traumatized by what happens. Try some empathy- your life will improve, I promise.[/quote]

These are both OP. At some point, womem need to take responsibility for their own happiness. You cannot tether yourself to someone who abused you horrifically and expect things to not haunt you. I am honestly sick of women doing this to themselves.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/105/1176795.page#26549738

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138007.page[/quote]

What's your point? And what about asking for advice from other women suggests OP is not "taking responsibility for their own happiness"? Sounds like OP is doing exactly that and trying to get her thoughts together regarding a massive betrayal and potential life change (divorce)

Again, please work on your own empathy. You being triggered by "women doing this to themselves" shouldnt be OP's problem. [/quote]

DP. I don’t think it’s particularly supportive, kind, or good for the universe to provide OP advice on how she can stay in situation that is clearly awful. [/quote]

I definitely dont think OP should, and in fact advised her to leave. But shaming her for "making another post" when OP is clearly attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation is really quite cruel and unhelpful. And yes, lacking in empathy. [/quote]

I don’t know at all that she’s attempting to get some clarity and thinking through her situation. Seems just as likely she had a bad couple days with her DH or her memories and needs a quick dopamine hit from the internet. [/quote]

That seems like a deeply uncharitable and harsh interpretation of OP's post. You may try to unpack why you have such a hostile reaction to a woman seeking advice on an advice forum.[/quote]

If you think my post was “deeply uncharitable and harsh,” I’d suggest you stop reading DCUM, otherwise you are in for a rude awakening.

As my “hostile” reaction, nothing about my post was “hostile.”  You might want to unpack why you would hang out here if you are so fragile. 
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No thanks, I'll continue to hang out here and call out the mean and antisocial posters that everyone hates so much. And force them to answer for why they are so incredibly cruel and miserable. [/quote]

You are the narcissist actually. That is the point, you are not making anyone squirm. No one has changed their mind because of you. No one has explained themselves to you at your command. You are just talking to yourself. [/quote]

You've been explaining yourself and melting down for the past couple pages, so I'd say it worked quite well with exposing you. hence the narcissistic rage youre displaying at being exposed and called out. Peace of cake.[/quote]

Not accurate.[/quote]

Yes, accurate. [/quote]

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