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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m an American who spends time in Stockholm and have observed this too, OP.  I also notice a related phenomenon with family dogs when they are taken out in public. Swedish city-dwelling dogs have -excellent- manners and temperament compared to DC dogs — even the same breeds. It’s like they are all highly trained service dogs for the vision impaired. Calm and confident, never leash pulling or inappropriately interested in every stimulus.

With both kids and dogs, a large part of the presentation has to be expectations set at birth.  But genetics must have something to do with it because you almost never see crying fussy babies in store or errands, which blows my mind. They’re all calm.

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The people are calm too. In a more socialist society where you don't make a lot of $ but you have security of health insurance, free education etc. there is far less striving and stress forUMC families. These are also far smaller spaces, there isn't a lot of private space (large back yards etc) so you are always out in public and other people will correct your kids. Europeans and even more so the Japanese have a very strong culture of not inconveniencing others with their actions. [/quote]
Yea, I think part of it is the stress.  American families are more stressed out.

DH is from Europe; my family is from Asia.  We raised our kids kind of  the old fashioned ways (we are also older parents).  We have had many compliments from strangers at restaurants about how well behaved our kids are. They are now teens, and we still get compliments.   DH was fairly strict about table manners; me, less so, but that's because I grew up in the US.

Our kids noted how we parent differently than most of their friends' parents.  [/quote]

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