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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have never experienced this from my own kids  (3 boys) at all. I don't know why but I feel lucky.

[b]I was definitely this way towards my dad in my teens and into my 20s. It was due to feeling controlled and judged by him. I am sure I was oversensitive to some extent but he also had little filter. He has gotten so much better about this as he is older and I also can let things slide much better. [/b]I am the oldest of 3 girls. My youngest sister was similar with my dad.

We never had issues with our moms. She was/is perfect. [/quote]
I was the same way. I had divorced, emotionally immature parents who were very judgmental but didn't actually have the tools to be supportive of give real guidance. I was very depressed after experiencing a significant trauma that went unaddressed.  They both remarried and in hindsight I feel like they prioritized their new spouses over their kids. My brother is 5 years younger and has a slightly better relationship with them. Now that I am older and the parent of a teen I can see how life was hard for both of my parents and I feel empathy. [/quote]

Your whole paragraph was dripping with contempt and blame and disgust, and you end with a perfunctory "I feel empathy".

This is why it is clear that people who go around saying "I am an empath!" "Be kind" "I feel empathy" do not do any of these things because it is not instinctual to them like the rest of us. They have to try really really hard at these things but it is so so hard because everyone is so awful, but they are trying!![/quote]
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I don't see the connection between those two posts. She is saying as a parent she understands more and feels empathy. She didn't claim to be an empath and it's certainly not instinctual for a teen to understand why their parents might be separating and devoting more time to new partners over their kids, unless they were some super...empath.[/quote]
+1 - I didn't see the connection either. [/quote]

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