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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So there is some weird, threatening, misogynist troll on this thread, [b]repeatedly posting.[/b] Ignore this, OP.

I’m the “I’ve been there before” poster. You could make yourself into the tiniest speck possible, and if you won his love that way, what is won? Men who want you to diminish yourself to be worthy of their love also have no ceiling and no floor for this, because it’s not about you. My ex was, and still is, deeply unhappy. Thankfully, I met him when I was old enough that I knew that what was going on between the two of us was deeply abnormal and not a “me” problem. But we didn’t have kids together, so the stakes were different.

If you haven’t been to counseling yet, this is the time. His behavior is not sustainable for a lifetime relationship. And the above poster trying to call you crazy, immature, and get you to break your neck making the environment more “calm and gentle“ for your husband is one of these many guys who believe that women only exist to prop up men. Unfortunately, there’s plenty of them out there.

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I don't think so. I think it's different people. [/quote]

No, I don't think it is. And it's probably you.

Also who cares? Any poster (one or multiple) trying to blame OP for wondering where her husband went when he left the house without a word to anyone (you don't do this when you have a family), or blame the kids for having activities ("they're overscheduled!"), is just looking for a reason to excuse her H's sh!tty behavior. Per this approach, everyone should tiptoe around the poor guy. No one should ask anything of him. Kids don't need activities. Yard doesn't need to be cleaned. Etc., etc.

Look, some guys just can't do life. They don't reveal it until they're already "life-ing" and they melt down and become 4 year olds. I don't know if OP's guy is one of them. I hope not. But excusing him and blaming her, yeah no thanks. Those marriages fail eventually, no matter what.
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