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[quote=Anonymous]As someone who has been through this with parents and inlaws: 1.) Nobody tells you MUST go no contact for any amount of time. Yes, when you have a difficult elder and they go over a bunch of things that may help with transition that is one thing SUGGESTED. We did that with one parent and it was much needed. 2.)Therapeutic lying absolutely helps and telling the truth can be cruel depending on the elder. Once you see a parent having a meltdown every time you remind her dad passed away and you see she is totally fine if you just say he's at the store, perhaps you will understand. Or perhaps you will be blessed with an easier situation all around. If anyone has experienced someone "dictating" you MUST have no contact for x amount days, please share. I was in support groups and have NEVER heard of anyone sharing this as any more than a suggestion and it comes with plenty of information why.[/quote]
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