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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]OP one thing I would pay attention to is basically what, if the coach were a parent, would be called mom/dad ball. People say paid coaches don't do it, but they absolutely can. It's not just about one kid. It's a favored in group. Those kids can make more errors, strike out more often, hustle less, whatever, because the coach just likes them. Maybe she clicks with their personalities. Maybe they're the most helpful. Maybe their moms run the boosters or teach at the school or something. Whatever it is, there's a connection between the coach and some of the kids. Meanwhile everyone else gets a tight leash on playing mistakes and somehow can never quite be good enough. 
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I don't even think that kind of behavior is usually intentional, but I've met plenty of softball coaches who do it. I've also met plenty who don't.

Maybe you've already addressed this, but does your DD control the controllables at practice? Does she hustle (this is a serious sticking point for a lot of softball coaches)? Is she attentive? Does she make the most of every opportunity? When she's in the dugout is she cheering on the team, paying attention to the game and sharing what she sees if anything?[/quote]

+1 It's a toxic environment. Some coaches are just crappy people and they like the mean girl/boy cliques. These parents are jerks and create their own tight group which gives them power. The kids all support their friends getting the positions regardless of skill. Other kids who are better players get screwed. I've seen it and there's nothing you can do about it. The coach will become angry if you bring it up because they know they're not behaving appropriately.

OP, your DD needs to leave the team. This is a mind f*ck situation. If there's no other softball team to join, then she needs to find a new sport. I'm really sorry. We're going through that now with our HS DD and we waited too late. I wish we left when the masses did. [/quote]

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