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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am estranged from my sister. A card with or without money to my child would be unwelcome and returned to sender. My teenager has unfortunately been witness to some outbursts from my former sibling and would be also weirded out by the attempt at contact.

It’s an attempt to keep the line (no matter how thin) of connection/communication open.  [/quote]

Agree. I have a sister who wrote to tell me she wanted nothing to do with me, but continued to send things to my kids. I realized from her letter that she was a bully and completely untrustworthy, so did not want her in a position to treat my kids the way she had treated me.

I wrote “Return to Sender” on everything she sent. She eventually got the idea and stopped sending things. I was not going to let her use money and gifts to manipulate my children, which I knew was her goal from talking to other relatives. 
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There is so much pain in this post as well as assumptions. We tend to make up stories in our head to help cope with the pain. And then there’s paranoia which begs the question, at what point does this behavior/thinking cross over to clinical mental illness? In our family it was our mother that controlled and created this dysfunction fed by her paranoia. [/quote]

I’m the immediate PP here, not sure if your comment refers to my post. I can’t tell whether you are indicating that I or my sibling was making up stories, but  I had no need to make up stories in my head because I have the letter my sibling wrote and there are numerous relatives who have been witnesses to her behavior.

There does tend to be agreement among family and friends that she appears to be mentally ill, but you can’t get help for someone who doesn’t want help. She can come across as bright and personable for a time, but if someone crosses her in any way, she can lose it. She will scream at people who are trying to help her. At one point, in a public place, security guards had to be called to escort her from the premises. Yes, very possibly some paranoia there.

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Borderline personality disorder[/quote]

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