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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you have also lost all perspective.  Your salary is enormous by American standards.

If you were living in flyover country, like me, your house would probably be cheaper and you'd be less stressed.

Your wife's expenses feel very "keeping up with the Joneses" for your income bracket.  That doesn't make it a good decision to spend money that way.  But it doesn't sound odd to me, based on what I've seen from the richer people I know.

If you get a divorce, your wife will probably continue to spend child support on things that you think are ridiculous. Best case for her, she somehow trades up to a guy who can afford more. How will you feel then, having given up your family because of money?

I think you need to evaluate your childcare arrangements holistically and try to reduce some fluff.  With your nerves, I hope you are in a district with good public schools.

Maybe you can convince your wife to save if she's able to put it in a 529 college fund.

Keep an eye out for youth sports costs.  Martial arts are actually pretty cheap compared to many sports. At the high school level, track is the best bargain.

If you're willing to divorce over this, I don't think it's too sexist or too harsh for you to set up a monthly budget transfer that covers the entirety of what you want her to spend from your salary on running the household.

My husband and I have our names on joint accounts but financially rarely cross paths.  We've agreed on how to split payment responsibilities for various bills and that's how it's worked for 3 decades.  I handle groceries, utilities, insurance, etc.  He handles mortgage and phone, etc.  His bills are stable.  Mine fluctuate.  That works with our styles and income flow patterns.

If you haven't tried an emptying account that goes to zero, I'd say you haven't exhausted all possibilities.[/quote]

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