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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just updating. Baby girl is 6 months and it's been hard but I'm so lucky to be her mom. Grieving my mom and what she should have been has been really hard during this time. I'm on meds for PPD/PPA.

My SIL has been reaching out regularly and I just haven't responded. I'm thinking about texting back to say this has nothing to do with you or my nephews and to let her know my brother and mother do know. I can only imagine the lies they have come up with. I'm on the fence now if alluding to the abuse or just spelling it out.

Her last text to me was along the lines of my boys( jr and high school )are so sad they won't ever meet their cousin. [/quote]

So glad you are managing and got help with medication. It's good that you are grieving the mom you should have had and hopefully now you have closure knowing she cannot change. I would not get involved with any manipulations. This whole being sad SIL's boys won't ever meet their cousin is trying to make you feel guilty. Emotionally healthy people don't use those tactics.

There is this desire in disturbed family systems to have normalcy. For the person abused you crave an actual healthy family and for the abusers and enablers they seem to crave the appearance of a healthy family. They will gaslight/guilt trip/manipulate even threaten to keep up that appearance. At least that is what I have experienced. Unless your mom got into intensive therapy (which won't happen) she will never change. She truly must be deranged to not respect your wishes given the abuse. Mourn and move forward with the beautiful family you created![/quote]

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