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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lube up. Story of our marriage. They don't change. [/quote]

OP here. Honestly, this may be the best advice. However, I feel like that pleases him still and not me. I want to be touched. I want to be turned on. Just lubing up turns him on and not me. I still want sex, very often, but I want my thighs stroked too, kissed, etc. [/quote]

Same here. I tried showing him, but he gets impatient if things take time, and I feel as if I am a burden. He gets tired if I ask him to hold on the same pace or, alternatively,  cannot repeat the motion I like.  When I show him a position, his back starts hurting, or his leg goes numb, and he can't continue. It's been like this forever! Once he saw a move  in p**n, I guess, or read somewhere about what women like. He proceeded despite my begging him not to do it, and it hurt like hell. So now, we lube up, I go through the motions, and he feels good. The end. [/quote]

Listen, OP - You're not a victim. You don't have to put up with this low-effort, selfish nonsense.

Until you're ready, the answer is no. Until it's good for you, the answer is no. If you feel "guilty" about advocating for yourself, maybe you need the help of a professional (therapist, counselor, sex therapist) to help you understand why and work through it. But it doesn't have to be like this. Demand better, and don't put out until you get it.

He sounds absolutely insufferable. Don't fsck jerks. Being married isn't some kind of AH pass.[/quote]

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