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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know I should cut it off with work guy, but I also feel, H got to go have his fun. Why shouldn’t I? Why shouldn’t I enjoy attention from someone who is actually into me?[/quote]

I could give you all sorts of reasons based on integrity and your love for your kids and everything, but the real answer to this is because you will pay a price for it much higher than any rush it ever gave you. Read up on the hormones of falling in love, how we bond to other people and why that biologically makes sense. That's all that this is. And those hormones feel GOOD. And we don't have them for our long time partner.

But they will end. Maybe not right away, because an affair involves intermittent reinforcement and wanting what you can't have, so the pining lasts longer. But it won't come to any good.

So sure, if it was just have this EA today and then walk away unscathed tomorrow, a fair number of people would say it wasn't the worst thing considering your husband's history. But that's not how this will go. Don't lie to yourself about it. You had enough self-awareness to admit that you're having an EA; that's a good start. Keep going and choose good things for yourself and your kids (and, yes, your H too). And choose good things for your coworker. Is a married woman with kids what's good for him right now? If it is, then he's got his own problems. [/quote]

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