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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s ok to be attracted to a co worker and ok to hug them, albeit less common post #metoo. To do so for 30 seconds plus continue to text him after you are no longer working together raises major red flags.  Can count on one hand the number of ex co-workers I still text after they leave, if we didn’t know each other socially before working together.

Feels a bit like you are trickle truthing hoping for someone here to defend or justify your behavior and/or your male friend is telling you he wants to be friends , hoping you’ll open the door for more since you’re the married one.  Either you should be honest to DH about the true nature of this friendship or you should cut off before it causes major issues …

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I'm not looking for anybody's approval, just tried to understand what he meant to say with his hug. I have 2 adult children, and both of them independently of each other told me that they will support my decision to leave their father if I choose to do so because life is short and they know that I'm unhappy with him. I wish I had mutual feelings with a man closer in age to me and at the same stage of life. Don't know why I met this young guy who lives so far away, and now both of us have to suppress our feelings.[/quote]

The more comes out, the more it seems you probably said or did something to lead him in the direction of romantic interest.  Hard to imagine given your unhappiness with your marriage that none of this info came out while you were together.

To me it feels like he was engaging in the long hug hoping you’d do something more aggressive in return.

If you really have feelings don’t let age or distance be an obstacle but either way, come clean with your DH that things are likely ending so he can start to think about the future too.

Anyways back to the original topic , 30 second hug seems totally abnormal and off even for a significant other or spouse.  [/quote]

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