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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I found an old thread to ask a question that I don’t want to attract much attention to. If there is a man who says that he only feels that he and you (woman) are friends and then gives you a really tight and long (at least 30 seconds) hug, what does that mean? Does he truly feel like a friend or is there something more going on? The woman is married, the man is single. [/quote]

If he's gay, this is comforting. If he's het, this is super weird, unless they're childhood friends or otherwise especially close.

30 seconds of physical contact is pretty intimate.[/quote]
Definitely not gay. Yes, so weird, has never happened to me before, therefore am trying to figure out what he meant by this hug. [/quote]

Are one of you going on a long trip? Recent loss or heavy news (e.g. cancer diagnosis)? Had you been venting about how shite life is right now, or some other situation that might make him feel compelled to offer comfort?  Were there traveling hands or was it just a static, tight hug?

I mean, I don't want to jump to "eww, creepy" but... without some sort of reason or explanation, that is entirely too long a hug from someone who is simply hugging you.[/quote]
We'd worked together for a few months and had a couple of deep conversations. I'm fully remote, the company is on the West coast, where he lives. I recently went there for a business meeting and met him in person for the first time, outside of work. He gave me a tight hug when we met, then we went for a walk and he briefly hugged me a couple of times as we walked and then when it was time to say goodbye, he held me really tight and for a long time and didn't say anything, no traveling hands. I didn't complain to him about anything, and it's likely not going to be soon when we meet in person again but it certainly might happen in the future. [/quote]

You two are having an emotional affair. (If you are both single, having an "affair" isn't bad.)

If that's not your intention, you should tell him. [/quote]
Well, I genuinely have no idea as to what is going on between us. I’m married, and he is a lot younger and single (I’m in my 40s, he is 30s). He told me he feels we are friends. And I don’t know if/when we’ll even meet in person again. We no longer work together and exchange text messages a couple of times a week. [/quote]

You are comfortable texting in front of your husband and sharing some of the info he mentions, right?
Occasionally sending a group text to both of them, right?
And comfortable talking about your husband in a positive light, right?

Or no? [/quote]
Yes to your questions 1 and 3. He texted to tell me that he has only felt that we are friends, so our conversations are very innocent. I wouldn’t send them a group text because they haven’t met and because our conversations and common interests are different. With that guy we talk about work and general life updates: e.g., someone in the extended family got sick or engaged. [/quote]

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