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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How long does a high-conflict custody battle take?  We have just started.  Ex served me out of the blue and is asking for full custody.  Even though I have always been the primary parent and primary earner.  Boys are tweens.  His lawyer asked for a comprehensive custody evaluation which was granted.  Ex is threatening in writing that this is going to go on for the next 7 years, basically until kids graduate high school.

He is delusional right?  How long is this going to take?  Kids and I are living apart now and our home is more peaceful now that I am not in an emotionally abusive relationship and kids know that. There was one incident of physical abuse that kids witnessed.  I do not have a lawyer as I cannot afford one.  Kids not interested in living with him at all.   He is abusive over email now that I am not in the same living space.  I put kids in therapy.

Any advice or words of wisdom?  [/quote]

1. You need to learn not to react and to let things sit for 24 hours or more 
2. Say no to more evaluations. All
of them.
3. Go see free women’s groups. They exist.
4. He might (i would put money on it) over time. Mine took 4 years. Year five out we are GREAT. This was after my own “personal chernobyl” of a custody battle.
5. Do not consume alcohol or do any drugs or anytime. If this is not you, then none of this advice may apply.
6. If your kids are in therapy - no not expect to use any of it in court  That is supposed to be therapeutic for them. if it’s not for that reason , WAIT for that treatment.
7. There is a lot written about spouses who go full custody against the the normally primary parent / look it up and inform yourself 
8. Realistically it’ll go 50-50. Believe it.
9. Call his bluff. Let him have the kids. He won’t.  He is doing it to get the upper hand and he is cheap - he wants a discount on his monthly amount owed to you. 
10. Stay strong and get help. [/quote]

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