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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why did these bozos have THREE kids?[/quote]
No one goes into a marriage thinking that the man is going to have a midlife crisis and leave the wife and kids for the AP.... well, most people don't.

But, when marriages do break up, most of the times, it's the moms who get stuck with raising the children by herself, while the deadbeat dads see the kids once in a while and barely offer any financial help.[/quote]

I went into a marriage thinking this way, sadly, because I watched it happen to a loved one.  I saved aggressively for college, starting at the birth of each child so I wouldn't be left cash-flowing college as a single parent someday.  I'm still married, and my anxieties have little to do with DH.  I don't think all women need to be like me, but I do believe all women who get married and have kids need to consider that this is a real possibility and plan for the future of themselves and their kids accordingly.  My friend in this situation already had a nanny because her ex was useless during their marriage, too, and because they had had one for so long, she got a 50% contribution from the ex toward the nanny's salary, in addition to child support.  One small thing that helped.  [/quote]

Per the courts in Virginia, men only have to pay roughly $400 per month per child. Good luck getting a nanny and paying for housing and food with that.[/quote]
FALSE.
Virginia is like almost every other state. They have a formula that takes into account income for all parties involved, spousal support payments, daycare expenses for the child, healthcare insurance for the child… So if a non- custodial parent has minimal income, the child support is low. If they are the ones paying for health insurance directly, their child support will be reduced by that amount. Please don’t throw out a number like that is the rule. Educate yourself.  https://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/obligation_calculation.cgi[/quote]

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