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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We just moved to a new city mid-year (last month) where my son started 4th grade at a private school. He has adjusted well and made friends. I left my own close-knit group of girlfriends who I met up with usually a few times/week, but have been excited to meet people in my new city.

I decided to jump in with both feet, hoping to get to know the school better and meet other parents, by chaperoning the first field trip of the year. I met a few other moms during the full-day excursion and they were very friendly and open. We had some nice conversations, and I was quite excited by how welcoming they were. The day after the field trip, I messaged two of the moms (separately) that I thought I had clicked with, saying that I enjoyed meeting them and would love to meet up for coffee. They never responded--didn't even acknowledge that they received my WHatsapp message. They have been active on the classroom WhatsApp groups, so I know they are online and receiving messages. Furthermore, I saw them at pick-up times, and they looked right through me as if they didn't recognize me (after having spent the whole day with me and sharing a lot about their lives/children) until I literally was directly in front of them and smiled/said hello. Maybe I'm feeling extra sensitive b/c I miss my friends/family back home and it's been a long time since I've been the "outsider" but I'm feeling rejected. What do you all think? Should I take the hint that they don't want to get to know me and move on, or do you think I should try again?  Do people usually respond right away if they want to be friends? I feel like I'm dating :)[/quote]

Are you not White? Are you an immigrant? [/quote]

OP here. This is an interesting question and the previous poster who presents as Asian has me wondering if this is a thing--is race playing a part? I am not an immigrant (born and raised in USA), but I'm not white. My parents were South Asian immigrants who moved here in the 1960s. FWIW, one of the moms is "very" white, and the other is Hispanic. Would be interesting to hear more perspectives on this.

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I'm not that person but I am also the children of South Asian immigrants and yes, absolutely, this plays a part in it. You're different. Just keep reaching out. I moved somewhere new a year and a half ago and definitely don't have any mom friends, just a few acquaintances but we're at the point where they'll chat with me on the sidelines oof sports games or at school events, which they didn't do a year ago, so progress![/quote]

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