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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]An eye for eye and tooth for tooth. People are so weird in dc where everything is transactional [/quote]

OP here. I’m not transactional at all. I’m very inclusive for my kids birthday parties. I try not to leave people out.

There are just some people who never invite (to their home or to anything), never treat, never drive, never offer. That would probably even be fine. I would just maybe invite less or only to big parties. What irks me is when those same people who never ever invite us to anything are then in turn hurt that we didn’t invite them to XYZ. Their kids feel left out. Mom wonders why we are suddenly not including their kid.[/quote]

You must have young kids. This will pass. Invite people you want to see. Don’t scorekeep. You never know who may be there for you in the years to come. You will figure out over time why people don’t host — maybe they have anxiety, maybe they don’t have the money, maybe they have a kid with serious behavioral issues, maybe their mom with dementia or their adult son with schizophrenia lives with them. All of this is stuff that is real in my friend group.

We are casual hosts. Like we invite 80 people to a game night, 30 come and we put up folding tables all over the house and garage. I provide a main (like a taco bar) and ask people to bring apps and desserts to share. It is still work to get the house ready, etc. But my husband 100% participates in the planning and prepping. We enjoy it and have invited people for more than a decade that never reciprocate. They are good people we are glad to have in our lives. [/quote]

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