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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]and I am not OK with that. He is 23. She is 29. With a kid. She is very pretty but a hot mess, "still figuring things out". He is a catch, a young, successful adult, with a good job, no debt, he lives by himself but recently started saying how he wants to move in with her.

Just here to vent. So not what I hoped for him. [/quote]

Your feelings are valid. [/quote]
Ditto. 
Let's try to cut feelings out of the discussion with son and ask questions as if it is a business venture.
What is the long term outlook? What is the goal? 
Does he understand the concept of sunk costs? This is a big one at his early age where he feels like he has nothing to lose - except time. Likewise for her at 29, sunk costs feel much more present as time marches on for her.
How will the venture be funded? Is the business partner also investing an equal amount? What does he bring to the partnership? And what does the other person bring? (talent, skillsets, capacity)
How would the outcome be equitable in event of dissolution of partnership?
Is there a mutual agreement about roles?

These are questions that anybody should be asking regardless of any form of partnership.[/quote]

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