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These people put their kids into team sports, give away their power to coaches, and come here and complain.  Am I missing something?

My kids do swimming and tennis.  In tennis and swimming, the results are recorded so there are NO favourtism or nepotism.  [/quote]

Yeah, you’re missing something. [b][i]Some kids prefer team sports over individual sports[/i][/b]. I have two like this. I was a swimmer and tried to get them into it. But they just don’t get motivated by the individual aspect. They like the excitement of a team competition and the social interaction that is inherent to the team practices and games. They do like summer swim because it has some of that. But winter swim is very individual before high school, and you can’t make our high school team without being a good club swimmer already.

I do like seeing how unselfish my kids are on a team setting — they truly care more about the game outcome than how they played individually.

I’ve seen some parents push individual over team sports despite what their kids actually prefer. I think that’s the wrong way to do it and it will backfire. A love of the sport is needed for long term enjoyment and success.[/quote]

That's exactly my point.  Parents need to do a better job at explaining to kids about team vs. individual sports.  In team sports, especially without performance metrics, he/she might not make the team even if he/she is better than those that make the team, due to favoritism, nepotism, or both.  The parents themselves should already know this about team sports, and they should not complain when it actually happens to their kids.[/quote]

So funny that you think explaining this to kids will magically change their preferences. My children understand the difference; they still prefer team sports. Why would they put themselves through almost daily training in a sport they don’t enjoy just because there is less politics? That makes no sense.

Life isn’t fair and there will always be some BS to deal with. Sometimes a result that you care greatly about will partly depend on the performance of others. I don’t think you serve kids well by steering them away from any situation where that is the case. That’s how you end up with people who can’t handle any sort of collaborative or group work in school and the workplace. You are sending a message that they shouldn’t trust others and they should only do things where they are fully in control of their own fate. Sounds like a great way to create an anxious young adult.

Let your kids choose their sports and guide them through whatever situations come up. Stop trying to bulldoze the path for them.[/quote]

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