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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Looking for assertive ways to respond to chauvinist / misogynistic, classist, and racist remarks. The types of remarks that someone might not see as blatant but is more so the covert type. My goal is to stand up for values of equality and equity while also being heard (I know you can’t control that but still). While some people may never change their prejudices, I do believe that many people have never been checked or invited to reflect on their biases. I want to practice some effective replies so I am quick in the moment and ready to tackle these issues head on. Sometimes I get overwhelmed and can’t find the words. Calling on the hive mind, in hopes that it helps me and many others.[/quote]

I may be the only one who feels this way, but as a minority female, I think calling this stuff out is just unproductive and makes me people more defensive and angry.  If it's a close friend or spouse, sure, have a conversation about it.  I think it's totally fair for you to make your own judgments about people's ignorance or biases, and make a mental note of it for yourself.  I think it's fine if they make themselves look stupid or ignorant.  But what's the point of calling it out?  So you can stand the moral high ground?  Does it actually change their views? No.

In fact, I feel like it undermines the efforts towards more equity, by making people reactive and push against this intolerance for their beliefs or lack of awareness.

News flash, everyone has some level of their own biases, prejudices, and racist and classist and misogynistic thinking.   It's impossible to not be, when you live in a society that is basically built on it.

Now, if someone is actually treating someone badly, or hurting someone, yeah - absolutely call that out.[/quote]

To clarify, I'm not encouraging inaction. I'm encouraging strategic action.  For example, get involved at the local level to support efforts that provide more opportunities for minorities.  Quietly work to empower minority women.[/quote]

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