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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel for the son. He's just trying to get a copy of his prom video then gets dumped on. OPs frst response was fine. I think son was fine say the "family " needs to take better care of the stuff. He wasn't even asking about his dad's personal effects but a camcorder, which happened to have belonged to the ex, with the FAMILY videos, like the sons prom. So I don't actually understand why OP would reply that she's not family because the son was asking about family videos. Maybe son's phrasing wasn't the best but this is where mom can gently offer for him to take dad's things and not rant about son needing therapy. This man, the ex, sounds like a dog but he no longer exists. Keeping a good relationship with the kids is much more important. [/quote]

Op here, for added context, we go through this every year around the anniversary where he wants me to pull out photos and send them to him via text. He wants me to go down memory lane with him, it feels somewhat manipulative, and I'm not interested. The camera was his dad’s camera. We were already separated at the time of his prom so its a camera/video I don't have but that my son has seen multiple times. He wants me to share in his grief. I respect his grief and memories by holding my peace but he wants me to grieve for his dad but I don't. That's why I recommended therapy. I am the wrong form of support and frankly tired of it this many years later. His aunt/that side of the family are the better support option if he wants to walk down memory lane.[/quote]

Are both of your parents still alive OP?[/quote]

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