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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think there’s an important distinction between resenting the lost potential income vs resenting the person having time for themselves. 
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I agree. I’m talking about a situation where one spouse doesn’t work and has a lot of free time.

If the family needs the money I’m sure it leads to resentment. And if they don’t need the money, does the spouse care if one spouse stays home, has a ton of free time and kind of freeloads?

There are different types of stay at home moms. Some I knew stayed home with young kids. They didn’t have nannies, spent time taking their kids to activities, parks and playdates after school, making dinner, with the kids on endless days off etc. they volunteered at school. And most of these productive moms went back to work once the kids entered school for enough hours. Maybe some had a part time babysitter if they have several small children and need extra hands. But they work hard and once the kids were out of the house during the day, they still had drive to work - whether going back part time, full time, or having their own “consulting” business, or something like that.

Others outsourced childcare and never went back to work. These are the ones who are sitting around watching tv or going to the pool by themselves while full time nannies do school pick up and drop offs, laundry etc. and this is the setup I find weird.

I almost find the aspect of not wanting to do anything stimulating/productive to be the strange part. And as a secondary aspect, wonder if the spouse bankrolling it is resentful.

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Assume this is OP?  Can't speak for your "friends" but my spouse considers any income joint income and is not resentful in the least. [/quote]

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