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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD struggled to engage in the application process because, in hindsight, she was dealing with a lot of anxiety about leaving home and going to college generally. We helped create a framework for her to manage the process while acknowledging that while she wasn’t ready to leave RIGHT now, we had time to help her prepare so she’d be (more) ready in August.

I think she also struggled because [b]she had an unrealistic idea—reinforced by social media and other kids at school—that most students knew what they wanted to major in [/b]and that there was a “perfect” school for everyone.  The pressure to find the perfect school and figure out what she wanted to do for the rest of her life was far too daunting. We did our best to dispel the idea that everyone knew what they were majoring in/were so certain about their choices etc. Also, reiterated that no place is perfect or a perfect fit and tried to help her focus on having her feel comfortable enough with the schools we looked at. Physically visiting those schools was extremely helpful with this.

Lastly, I think that all of the hoopla around the decision reveals made it seem like everyone is wildly happy with their options, had a clear vision of their future, and was ready to go. The reality is that these reveal announcements are a show. Yes, some kids are very excited about getting into a first choice but most have difficult decisions to make and are far from certain about any of it. 
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1000%!!!!
My kids think they have to know NOW what they want to do with their lives. This is pressure put on by the schools, too, not just social media. In reality, lots of students begin college "undecided." Going to college is an opportunity to learn more about different areas to help you choose something, even if you change your mind about it later -- which is also something a lot of people do. Heck, a lot of adults change their minds and shift paths after years in a field. Some do it multiple times.[/quote]

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