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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is she actually ready for college if it was like pulling teeth to get her to apply and now she isn’t interested in any of her choices?[/quote]

+1. It’s very strange that OP thinks she should have pushed more and made more decisions for her daughter. This is their process, not ours.[/quote]

I don't think that's what she's saying.  She regrets not having provided stronger guidance at a more opportune time.[/quote]

Right. At several points she had the opportunity to submit more applications, said I'll do it later, then she said she didn't want to bother. I should have insisted more, but I didn't want to cause more conflict and stress.[/quote]

That is her decision, for good or ill. Can’t you see that? She will learn from it. You can’t learn for her. And this learn-from-experience cost her pretty much nothing - she will go to a good school that has her major, right? Of course over the coming months [b]she may experience some regrets.[/b] If you own those regrets and take them on yourself what she’ll learn is “other people should take care of me” or “if I don’t do what I must it is because other people didn’t push me to.” How do you think that plays at work, or in a marriage?

Just keep encouraging her - she did great, is going to a great school, and you are proud of her. If she expresses regrets empathize that hindsight is 20/20, and she’ll make the best of where she goes. You have faith in her.[/quote]

And if so, she can look into applying to transfer somewhere else. She'll know better and make better choices then.[/quote]

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