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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Last straw for me was inviting a flaky friend to my house for lunch.

She arrived late and pretty much spent the entire time on her phone. Ate quickly and left. It was all so weird. 
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Same. I made lunch and they didn’t show up. Later, found out the person had major depression.

I felt kind of bad afterward that I did the slow fade. I still miss that person sometimes.

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I no longer miss her. Sorry, but I did a lot of self-reflection and gave this relationship a great deal of thought and insight. To counter PP who contends that a slow fade or ghosting is cowardly, I disagree. When a relationship is so one sided and focused only upon the other persons needs and schedule and fragile emotions, I am done. This isn’t sustainable and isn’t real life. The world will not cater to your every whim, emotion, life changing event, moods and neither will I.

[b]With this former friend, I later had an awful family situation to navigate and reached out to her to advise (kind of…hi, it’s been awhile but here’s what happened to me) and was met with a dismissive too bad/so sad answer.[/b] It was as if no one else could have setbacks and misfortunes except for her.

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New poster. Re: The bold -- am I missing some of the timeline here, PP? Did you "reach out to her to advise" you [b]after[/b] you had done your slow fade? If so: Why would you expect any response other than the one you got? I suspect you'll say you expected her to feel empathy for your situation but if you'd already done the slow fade, why would you expect that result when you suddenly needed something from her, even advice? I'm asking seriously.

Maybe you made this request for her advice before the fade, but you say it was "later," so it's not clear to me.

I would not reach out like that to anyone I no longer wanted in my life, even if that person had been in a similar situation. Perhaps [i]especially[/i] if that person had been in a simiilar situation. [/quote]

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