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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your coworker is envious of all the help you have during a time where she had (or would have) very little help. She's being rude if her judgment is overt or coming out of nowhere.

But if her judgment is more like "wow, that's a lot of help" in a tone of voice that isn't 100% supportive, she's actually not even being rude. That's a sign you need to shut up about all your paid help at work. No one needs to know ALL your business.[/quote]

OP here. A group of us were talking over lunch about childcare. A co-worker of mine just got back from maternity leave and one is about to go on hers. I was asked what I was doing for childcare and recommendations.

The co-worker who made the tatami happened to join us later in the conversation. She doesn’t have kids. [/quote]

Why do you care what a non parent coworker thinks?

People are judgy. Most people have family help. I’m Asian American. In our culture, the mother is supposed to rest for the first month. The grandmother often comes to help. If family is unavailable, they hire someone who is kind of a mix of a housekeeper and nanny.

I don’t understand why your nanny can’t help with your newborn. Give the newborn to the nanny and take a nap. Pay her more.

I rehired my old nanny when I had my third even though I stopped working. I didn’t feel judged at all. I had the nanny during the day though. I was able to take my older kids to school and activities. I always did nights. [/quote]

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