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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you tell him to stop bringing his girlfriend home and to events. My kids aren't that old yet but I'm already annoyed thinking about the possibility. [/quote]

Of course a parent can do that, and it's excellent strategy to build a relationship with your adult kid where they want limited contact with you[/quote]

How adult are they at 21? Are you done paying for college and their living expenses?[/quote]

So rules are different if they've a full ride?[/quote]

I get, I guess, the my house my rules sentiment, but I will never understand the need to control your children's behavior until they are completely financially independent. Baffling [/quote]

To be fair, if they aren't financially independent the parents have to bear the consequences of their actions. [/quote]

That's not much of an argument. It's not even a good "to be fair." It seems then the argument is that they don't learn to make good choices or independent decisions until they're completely financially independent? That seems like a really bad idea.

And it's a straw man because we know that's not the reason parents are trying to  control behavior of adults. (And please do not come at me with they are not adults unless they're fully paying for absolutely everything. That is a specious argument)[/quote]

Why should 21-year-olds get treated with full adult privileges if they can't even support themselves?  We don't care to promote serious relationships before the kids are done with college and in a position to support themselves, so bringing a girlfriend or boyfriend home would be out of line.  [/quote]

So dating, hookups, sex, pregnancy, orgy etc is fine as ling as no one comes to your home or gets into a respectful relationship.[/quote]

How does not allowing them to sleep in the same room promote those things?  We've taught our kids not to engage in risky behavior, but if they must, how to be safe, and they know that they are on their own if said risky behavior results in pregnancy or disease.  [/quote]

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