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[quote=Anonymous]It's a process for sure. I don't think there's a slam-dunk moment in my future, like a "whew, glad THAT's something I never have to think of again" ... but I am deeply content, I experience joy on a regular basis, I am in awe of my incredible husband and kids--I fully recognize that my life is worlds better than any future I could have dreamed of when I was a kid. I am so thankful to be alive and able to give/receive love.

That being said: I often need to address things that pop up within myself, which I think is normal to a certain extent--especially as a parent. It seems like every time my kids reach a new age/stage I need to do a little digging to see what emotional reactions I'm having and if they're rooted in a healthy or unhealthy place, if that makes sense.

I did EMDR about 10 years ago and it was super helpful for me up to a point. It was most effective during specific memories/instances that I needed to recategorize--like, specific things that I found awful or terrifying as a child. But it didn't address everything for me.

Over the last year+ I've worked with a trauma specialist and I've done a lot of inner child work with him. That's been really healing and eye-opening. There is something deeply wonderful about meeting "myself" at various younger ages and providing the unconditional love and care that I didn't receive at that time. It's allowed me to realize so many things: that I was just a kid, that kids aren't responsible for adult actions and decisions, that ALL kids deserve love and care just like I would give to my own children. Some of that parentification ... and just carrying the burdens of my family of origin ... ran very very deep with me and the inner child stuff is actually addressing it on that deep level. [/quote]

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