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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would actually try to take a couple steps til I improve and help prolong the situation.  I would talk her into getting a storage unit to store some of her stuff.  I would hire a home healthcare helper and maid to come in a few days a week.

Best case scenario she passes away peacefully in her sleep at home and he keeps the house and he/you can afford a maid/helper to help keep him stable there.  [/quote]

Thanks, I think we're going to talk to a social worker next week about taking some of these steps. We just want her to be safe.

We've spoken to him about having to sell the house and he just refuses to understand that will happen. He can't afford to keep it; the property taxes will revert back to normal level (currently a senior rate) of $12k a year. He made $24k last year. We also can't help with these costs or paying for an aide for him. I think we could take the proceeds from the house and buy him a small condo, but he'd have to pay for monthly dues, power, etc. However, he tells us weekly how we've ruined his life, we don't want to help him, and tht he's not leaving, so we're sort of at a loss (much of this is the mental health issues rearing their ugly heads).

Thanks for the advice. [/quote]

This entire thing will fall on your DH if your MIL dies suddenly. Please look into getting him SSDI if you think it’s a possibility. Sadly your best bet is if your MIL lives another 4 years so he can get early SS at age 62. I’d also seriously look into getting him on a waiting list for Section 8 housing. You can do almost everything online so you don’t have to worry about him not following up.
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She can't get any of this if he has no diagnosis.[/quote]

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