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This particular look is built on exclusion. It takes a level of time, money, and effort that puts it past most women just by definition. I do wonder why someone would be that dedicated to a lifestyle which is valued because it is exclusionary, and why other things (and really, other people) don't mean as much as it does to you.

I'm not talking about women who get their hair done, or who enjoy some nice pieces or jewelry, or who put an effort into being groomed. I'm talking about the women who make sure to hit The Look we are referencing, point by point, with a sharp eye to every detail (the exact length of the Lululemon pant, the right shade of blond, the acceptable places to go, all of it).

It doesn't mean you necessarily are a bad person. it does mean you value a structure that is itself valued because it excludes most people. Why?[/quote]

This feels like such a reach to me.  I'm not one of them. In fact, I'm one that would be excluded by them.  I'm overweight and my hair will never do that perfect wavy curl thing.  And I look better as a brunette.  But I've never looked at someone like you described and automatically assumed they were a stuck up B trying to fit into some exclusive club.  They are just wearing what they want.  Sure, sometimes they can be vapid and B-tchy and exclusionary, but I've met people who don't fit "the look" who are also like that.  I don't know.  It all just seems so weird to me to make all these judgements and assumptions based solely off how someone dresses.  I wouldn't want someone doing that to me so why should I do that to someone else?  [/quote]

People are making judgements about you based on how you dress.   [/quote]

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