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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How soon will the divorce be finalized? I didn't date until I was divorced because until then I was married albeit separated. It was just a morality issue for me. [/quote]

I agree dating before being divorced is not good for you or the children, it's actually adultery.  So at the very least, file for divorce right now before you start dating.[/quote]

It's so clear that you people don't live in the real world. You don't even understand how divorce works. Try Google. [/quote]

[b]NP.  I think your value system may be different than the previous 2 posters which may be clouding the way you are thinking about the situation.  From a morality standpoint, if you are married to someone, which OP currently is, any sexual activity with someone other than your spouse is considered adultery.  OP is considered married until all the forms are submitted properly that says she is divorced.  [/b]

That being said, you may think of OP as already being divorced since they have filed for divorce and OP is mentally and emotionally already "divorced" from her DH.  You seem to insinuate that people in the real world can think and do what they want, regardless of what a piece of paper says.  But just know that there are all types of people in the real world, who care about what that piece of paper says, and who want to do things correctly in the eyes of the law.

There is a correct order of doing things and if you take an alternate path, some times (not saying all the time), things can get out of whack.  I think that's what most people are saying on this thread.  
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No.  You are confusing "morality" with "technically."  If you are married, even if separated after an years-long affair by your spouse and diligently pursuing a divorce with all reasonable speed, having sex with someone else is "technically" considered adultery.  Morality doesn't play into it.  Each person is allowed to determine their own morality.  Considering the circumstances, I (and many other people) would not consider it immoral for OP to date, or have sex with, her new love interest, even though it might technically be considered adultery.

If you're going to preach morality, you should have an accurate perception of what it is, PP.

And for the record, I have been happily married for 20+ years, love my spouse very much, and have never cheated.[/quote] Get back to us with your preachiness after your spouse of 20+ years turns out to have been cheating on you. Guaranteed you'll be singing a different tune.[/quote]

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