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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Im in a similar position as OP but there are grandkids involved. My FIL’s new wife says my kids (baby, 2, and 5) should call her by her first name, not by a grandmother honorific title. We insist that our kids call adults Mr./Ms. (Southern! Can’t help it) but she insists they should just say her first name. I feel like this is cold toward my kids. This is their new grandma! [/quote]

Maybe she doesn't want to be their grandma and you should respect her boundaries. You're not entitled to this.[/quote]

I do respect her boundaries. We call her by her first name. I’m posting on a forum that this seems weird to me. My kids grandma died, grandpa remarried, and now they have a new grandma. I’m not “entitled” but it’s weird for my little kids. They don’t even remember the previous grandma! This is their grandma whether she wants to be or not.[/quote]

Hmm, no, she's not. She is your dad's wife. I understand your pain, but your kids' grandmother is deceased. You can't force his wife into the role. I do agree that it's strange for young kids to call an adult by their first name. Does she have a nickname? Perhaps if she's Lynn, the kids can call her "Ly-Ly." [/quote]

+1. You cannot make her. And if she and your dad divorced, she might never see you or them again. That's what makes her different from a grandmother.

Try to understand that the emphasis on honorifics and fake familiarity of Southern culture feels really weird to people who didn't grow up with it. Can't we all just be people and stop fussing over titles? [/quote]
I’m the PP. So what is the definition of a grandmother? My FIL’s wife is my kid’s grandmother. DH’s parents divorced when he was a kid. His dad remarried. That woman was my kids’ grandmother until she died. I don’t think it’s a great idea to do things “in case maybe someone gets divorced in the future.”

Again, I respect what she has asked my kids to call her, but I think it’s weird.[/quote]

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