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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I (36F) am coming out of an 8 year marriage with 2 kids after discovering a multi year affair. We are just about to file jointly and have been living separately for [b]3.5 months[/b][b] now (he moved out).

My intention was to focus on myself for [b]6m[/b]-1 year and then likely re-enter the dating world as I still feel young and hopeful with lots left to give. My "problem" is that I organically met someone in real life who seems very special. I was completely honest with him from our first conversation about where I'm at in life and my current situation. We have been talking for[b] 2 months [/b]now and have met up once (as "friends") with the intention of grabbing coffee on a Sunday morning. Coffee turned into lunch which turned into a 4 hour walk which turned into dinner and eventually ended after 9 hours together. We just had so much to talk about the day FLEW by in the best way. We have been totally honest with one another- he knows that my intention was not to enter the dating world for a while and he keeps saying that he feels like there's something really special growing here and would like to explore that at my pace, even if that means putting a pause and reconnecting in the future. He's been nothing but kind, supportive, and respectful in a really sincere way.

WWYD here? Stop and stick to my original plan? Tip toe forward slowly? FWIW, I found out about the affair 18 months ago and have done all the therapy, grieved the marriage, etc. There hasn't been any feelings about stbxdh moving out besides immense relief, stability, and calmness. I feel like I'm in a healthy place emotionally, but want to hear some opinions on this.

And before it comes up- yes my kids are my top priority, we are splitting custody 50/50, their dad is a great parent, they've adjusted really impressively so far, have them in therapy, no I would not introduce anyone to them anytime in the foreseeable future nor ever date/get a sitter during my precious time with them.[/quote]

OP, you're only 2.5 months away from your 6 months mark. You've been talking to him for 2 months, another 2.5 months would not be a problem.

Stay with what you've been doing. If he does not wait for another 2.5 months for an official first date, well....[/quote]

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