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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is no magic formula other than being caring and involved parents. [/quote]

While no "magic formula" I do think expecting your kids to do more and more responsibilities as they grow up helps with being a "fully launched adult" come age 22 (end of college).  The amount of kids who hit college and have never done a load of laundry is astounding.

We gave our kids more and more responsibilities over time.  By age 16 we would leave for the weekend (only once in a while) with the 16 yo in charge of the 12 yo and themselves for 1-2 days.  They had a CC and were trustworthy (and friends were nearby to assist if needed).  Basically we trusted them and let them have more responsibilities as long as they didn't do something stupid. SO by time they go to college, they have been in charge of a lot.  We wanted them to make their mistakes while still at home, with some guidance (and there were some mistakes, but nothing major).

Whereas I have other parents who won't leave their 17 yo home alone for a night, because they "don't trust them".  Which to me is a bit scary
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My kids never did laundry until college, managed it well and became academically, socially, professionally and relationally successful. [b]Its a good skill to learn but your success of any kind isn't dependent on it or on doing odd jobs.[/quote]

Wrong.  The skill you learn is not pushing the buttons on the washer and dryer.  The skill is to remember that laundry exists, and you have to allocate time to do it no matter what, so you have to leave some slack.  Your success is very much dependent on your executive functioning.

And, of course, if you know how to take care of things, they look better and last longer, but that’s secondary.[/quote]

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