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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Update: I talked about it with a relative who was there. (Not the one I want to cut off but one who is playing the role of “let’s keep the family together.”) I’m glad I did but it was disappointing. It took quite a while for me to get them to understand that no, the immediate reaction is not for me to “try to understand why they said that anti-semitic thing! Have grace!” But they did understand eventually. Still it’s just … disappointing. No matter how much it is acknowledged that this person seems to have it out for me, the answer is always “Oh but you have to understand, they have so much going on! Why don’t you reach out and blah blah blah.”

I think it was ONLY in fact getting through to them that yeah, that discussion could have sounded jarring to the mom of a Jewish kid, was the only way I could be seen as having any justification to be angry. [/quote]
Why do you need so much crowd sourcing?
Why does the relative need to understand?
You should have said something in the moment so everyone knows you don’t tolerate that mess. [/quote]

+1 Stop trying to get other people to understand. You know what happened.

Just do what you are going to do without so much discussion. You don’t owe any sort of explanation to anyone.

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