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my 19 yo daughter is home she just keeps finding fault with everything, talks about all the things i failed to do for her (i had my life dedicated to my kids my time money energy everything went for them, rightfully so) Shows no gratitude, creates mess and fights and yells at me and my younger kids who are at home along with her father.

I have fallen sick due to all this stress and my poor husband has to deal with cooking and cleaning. I wish she didnt come home. i am dreading winter and summer break when she will be back.
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Absolutely normal (*except* the yelling), but it sucks - sorry! I was at a resort one holiday with my youngest when she was 20ish, and she groused to me about everything we'd done wrong. To make matters worse, she'd been talking with her older sisters about how terrible her childhood was, and when we were back home it was important to them that we all sit down together to hash it out. That was about as fun as it sounds, but I did a polite job nodding and listening, since they wanted to be heard. Why it always seems to be the moms who get this crap, I can only speculate, but regardless it does seem to be a rite of passage.

It's been years since then, and all I've heard now from my (late twenties & early thirties) "kids" is that we're the greatest parents ever - especially compared to in-laws.  :lol:

I know it's easy for me to laugh on this side of it, but please know you didn't do anything wrong. Try not to worry yourself sick over it.

That all said, she should NOT be yelling. That's unacceptable. Let her know you'll listen to her *for a short period of time* if she has things she wants to express to you, and then move on. Smile and wave. Continued yelling from her is your cue to cut the communication short & take yourself somewhere more pleasant. If she doesn't respond appropriately, I'd consider some sort of punitive measure. She's an adult and relies on you for her welfare, so you have some options.

Good luck![/quote]

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