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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t have twins, but my sister is married to an identical twin. The twins went to the same college; where my sister met her husband. They married right after college. The other brother had a brief marriage, but basically is a third wheel to my sister’s family. He is at their house most weekends or during the week. Sometimes they all vacation together, or the vacation alone. The other brother sometimes joins our side of the family for the holidays. The brothers are a matched set and we all accept that.[/quote]

Why?  Is there some reason a twin gets a pass vs just a sibling…or would the sibling get the same treatment?[/quote]
You need the difference between identical twins versus any other siblings spelled out for you? Twins spend way more time together and have many, many more shared experiences than other siblings do. They’re often at the same developmental stages at the same time. When they’re young, they attend not just the same school, but they’re in the same grade. Every school event is shared. They’re simultaneously doing the same projects, going on the same field trips, participating in the same performances, eating lunch a few tables apart, playing on the playground at the same recess. They have the same pool of peers to befriend or date. They don’t just compete with other classmates; they’re in head-to-head competition. There’s no natural pecking order because there isn’t an “older” one in any meaningful sense.

Because identical twins have identical DNA, they’re not only the same sex (which means even more overlap in friends), but usually are so similar in appearance that it’s difficult for people to tell them apart. They may both want the same trendy hairstyle. They often have similar physical abilities, and may be drawn to the same athletic pursuits. It’s like being raised with your clone.

Siblings of different ages don’t live with any of their classmates or teammates. They aren’t competing against each other to represent their grade in the spelling bee. They don’t have to share the spotlight every time they reach a milestone. They don’t have perfect overlap of all their childhood memories.

Twins, and especially identical twins, have a very different sibling dynamic than siblings who aren’t the same age.[/quote]

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