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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I could have written your entire post and follow-up (re ok but not great sex in the beginning). Our kids are a little older than yours, that's about the only difference.

I have given up. We tried therapy (though it wasn't great - that could yield fruit if we found someone better and tried again.) He's gotten tested and does have low testosterone but refuses to do anything about it.

I look better now than I did when we got married. He has gained significant weight and that definitely impacts his self-esteem. He struggles w/ anxiety and low grade depression and won't treat that or go to therapy.

So he refuses to do anything to address the problems. Which leaves me in the position of deciding whether I can live with it or not.

We have a warm and loving friendship and really strong parenting partnership. I trust him completely (and know he's not having an affair). We just don't have passion of any kind.

I would never leave until our kids are grown, and we have about 10 years until that point. By then I'll be in my late 60's so perhaps I will no longer care and a warm loving friendship will be perfectly fine.

In the meantime I'm living w/ something I really am profoundly sad about, but accepting that as my reality and overall best choice at this point.

I'm so sorry. It sucks, for sure.[/quote]

Sounds like you are resigned to a life a sexual misery. Sounds depressing. Even low T men want sex So that’s not the only reason.

What changes have you made to yourself to help reignite the spark? Does he feel respected by you? Have you tried approaching  intimacy in your sex life like you pursed other personal and professional goals and accomplishments? Or is it basically, “he’s got low T, we tried…. oh well”.

You commented on his weight. Maybe part of the issue is you are not attracted to, or respect him?[/quote]

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