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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Getting angry is FINE in this scenario. She bit you and hurt her brother! I’m wondering where you got the idea that you shouldn’t get angry?

Anyway I think you need to work with a therapist specializing in child behavior. Not a play therapist, not a talk therapist, but a therapist that will teach you behavioral management techniques, like positive reinforcement and appropriate punishments. Because this is bad behavior and it needs to have a consistent consequence. [/quote]

Consequences are going to exacerbate a kid like this. Dad needs to connect with his daughter and remove the computers and phones. Daughter needs things to do outside of the home and make friends.[/quote]

I could not disagree more strongly. She needs to learn the behavior is unacceptable through a consistent structure of consequences and positive reinforcement. All the connection in the world doesn’t substitute for actual parenting with structure. Connection is important too but she bit him because she hasn’t been taught this is unacceptable, because there are no consequences, not because she uses a computer. [/quote]

I think you are delusional, thinking that all it takes is tough discipline and strong structure and this is OP’s fault for being a wimp it would never happen in my house and blah blah. I only read half of OP’s post and think she should talk to the pediatrician and get a referral for a neuropsychiatric evaluation. This child has issues and the sooner they are addressed and she is helped by an expert the better. [/quote]

I mean, I’m describing a parenting approach that is well-supported by reams of research and professionals, that I have seen work in my own household. A neuropsch can be helpful but I can fast-forward and tell you exactly what the neurospych told us for disruptive behavior: seek out parenting therapy. The dx literally made zero difference. OP seems to be well intentioned but is FAR from being able to deploy the parenting skills needed here. He needs support. [/quote]
NP do you have recommendations for therapists/parent coaches or how to find them? I have some similar challenges and am looking for someone to help me as a parent, not work with the child directly[/quote]

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