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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry that you married someone you're fundamentally incompatible with in this way. Maybe you need to own that choice and be at peace with it. Because you did choose it.

I'm really not understanding why you need him to be your travel and socializing buddy. Does time together and things in common need to be on your terms exclusively?[/quote]

Because sitting on the couch night after night to spend time with him and bond in a way that works for him but does nothing for me makes me want to spend time in ways that do actually fulfill my needs.[/quote]

Well, you want him to do things that work for you but do nothing for him (or worse, are actually stressful and depleting to him). So you're just as bad.[/quote]

Ok I see, thank you. I just need to find other people to fulfill many of my needs, no one has offered another solution.[/quote]

I mean, yes, I think to a certain extent most happily married people do this. Obviously not all their needs...but my husband likes to do things I don't (i.e. watch football games of teams I don't care about), so he does those things with his friends. I like to do things he doesn't (i.e. wander around antique stores), so I do those things with my friends. We do stuff together, of course, but I think expecting your spouse to fulfill you 100% in all ways is a recipe for disaster. We've been together almost two decades and have kids and both work and are very happily married. [/quote]

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