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[quote=Anonymous]This is the OP one last time. Our story ends here.

We miscarried naturally at about 1:00 this morning, at 15w1d. We were already at GW--I'd been having terrible cramps and some light bleeding, and since I had also been told I had placenta previa, we knew we couldn't ride it out at home...I wasn't interested in bleeding out. Within 30 minutes of our arrival I was bleeding scary amounts and, we later learned, had passed the baby. We were in the ER all night and then the OR this morning; they had to do a D&C to address the bleeding and get all the placental tissue. But the odds are good that we will never know why this baby didn't make it.

Physically i am ok, though i feel like a car has driven over my uterus (though i will say, the team at GW was amazing--kind, competent, caring). Emotionally, I am as you would expect; we knew this loss was very possible but that doesn't mean we aren't aching with grief. The part that is really saddening me is that we lost our tiny baby in that horrible filthy bathroom off the ER lobby--what a terrible, tragic, completely wrong place. It's going to take me awhile to grieve that particular loss.

But we at least have this: we know we did all we could, and we were at least spared the suffering of having to make the agonizing choice to terminate. Now we know for sure that this baby would never have made it. If that's what the outcome had to be, i am thankful to nature for taking her course.

I remember the Charlotte character on Sex and the City saying after an adoption fell through, "That wasn't our baby. We just haven't gotten the baby we are supposed to have...yet." That's what I'm trying to remind myself: that as much as we hoped it would be...this wasn't our baby. All we can do is hope that the next one is truly ours.

Thank you once again for everything.[/quote]

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