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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I ask the host what they prefer. 
What I don't understand is when other people (the guests) descend upon leftover food and take it home without invitation from the host. To me, that's super rude![/quote]

It seems super rude to me, too. The host has dibs. Then the person who brought it gets to decide to offer it to other guests or take it home.[/quote]

I don't know... if you are asking people to bring food to your party, you are hosting a potluck.  The etiquette for a potluck is that everyone takes their items home.  You can't have it both ways.[/quote]

This. I don't "host" pot-lucks, but seems normal to me. If I am hosting, I provide all the food and beverages for my guest. [/quote]

Maybe this is a regional etiquette thing? I have never been to a 'potluck' where the expectation was taking it home. You go to someone's house, you don't take what you brought back, this is just super rude unless the host is offering/encouraging.

Agree with others I would in fact go out of my way to transfer whatever I brought to bring my dish home and that is IT.

New England culturally FWIW.[/quote]

I was taught this too. West coaster. [/quote]

I think it depends on how the food came. In your baking dish or pie pan? Then it just goes back the way it came. If it’s disposable then it stays or goes back if the host asks you to take it. It’s weird to look for a plastic container in someone’s home to dump your dish into so they can keep it. It’s easier to just grab and go. And who wants to eat the food anyway if it’s been sitting out? I will take it, dump it at home, then clean my dish. It’s no good to anyone else anyway.[/quote]

New Englander here. In my family/life it does not matter how the food came at all. If I brought it it stays unless I am encouraged to bring it home. I'd go a step farther and say that the initial overture to take something home I would likely refuse but if I got a 'no really its way too much for me' I would bring some home. I am actually not even that likely to get my dish back in the moment but would more likely leave it and text the person later to swing by for the dish. I also have almost never been in a situation where the expectation is that all the leftovers are getting tossed. That seems crazy wasteful.

And you don't like start hunting through their cabinets for the tupperware. You help clean up or ask the host if they have a tupperware (a great opportunity for the host to then graciously tell you to bring something home). [/quote]

Be honest. How often do you actually bake something in one of your own dishes and need it back? If you only have experience buying something and bringing it premade it doesn’t apply.[/quote]

I don't know why your assumption is that I do not bring homemade things places. I am more likely to bring something homemade than not. I do try to get an aluminum tray though if I'm bringing it somewhere. I have plenty of applicable experience. I have also had plenty of people bringing dishes to my house and reuniting people with their dishes.[/quote]

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