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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, he may also be trying to stay calm because it wouldn’t be healthy for your household if two of you were this amped up daily. He may also be trying to tamp his own anxiety down. Who knows, maybe he secretly is voting for Trump, but it’s also just as likely that he’s voting for Harris but isn’t passionately worked up.

I’m incredibly anxious as is my DH. He spends every evening watching CNN and reading polls while I am trying to decrease the amount of news I ingest right now as it’s just increasing my own fears. All I can do now is vote.

Give him grace that you’re both handling this in your own ways. [/quote]

^ This might be right. My husband is so upset about this election he can't even talk about it (and no, he is absolutely not voting for Trump). It could be your husband's way of dealing with stress is to turn off and disassociate.

That said - telling you it doesn't matter is profoundly unhelpful. And I really disagree about phone banking and canvassing not mattering. Every single vote matters this time and if you can reach even a few people, that actually COULD make a difference.

I don't know how you navigate this, OP. I'd imagine part of what's bothering you is that you feel like your husband is simply checking out of something that really matters - matters to you and matters to the world - and it's probably making you not trust him to have appropriate levels of engagement and concern about other important things. It probably also feels existentially dire to you - it sure does to me - and you feel like your husband, like so many men, simply aren't taking seriously how much women are feeling and doing right now.

It might help to talk to a therapist - together or alone - just to get that perspective, and to help you both develop tools to help you deal with this together. Does he know how alone this is making you feel? I hope if he doesn't, that he would be willing to work with you once he learns.

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