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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I did everything right and he still left. You can’t control other people or outcomes.[/quote]
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I am married 20 years but agree with above poster.  There are many things out of your control that you cannot see coming.  Luck plays a bigger part than you'd think.  In my opinion, people with long-term marriages with no major problems got lucky, and to think otherwise is to be pretty smug.

Here are my suggestions:

-Have low expectations

-Ride out the hard times/be patient with you partner, and understand there are "seasons"

-Don't keep score.  There are times when you will be carrying the majority of the load, and times when they will.  It won't usually be 50/50

-Have as much sex as possible... there are times when that is the only thing that will bring you together... And a sub-point... don't marry someone you are not physically attracted to or don't have chemistry with.  This will make the sex part hard.

-Mental illness can absolutely wreck everything (and can be hard to see initially) but I would also not discount someone with it (or who has it in their family) as you could also be passing up on a great person.  Realistically, some type of mental illness is somewhere in almost every family.

-Having money helps a lot.  More of an observation than a suggestion.

-Hope you get lucky[/quote]
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All of this exactly for the both of us. We're at 24 years and happy. I hope this continues.[/quote]

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