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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I tend to attribute that kind of unfriendly behavior in adults to a lack of social skills, and I never really encountered it until I had DCs and was obligated to interact with other parents at school and in other settings. I was PA president for a couple of years, and I was constantly dealing with people who didn't seem to understand that being arrogant or condescending straight out of the gate is not a good way to win friends and influence people.[/quote]

All we have here is that OP feels like part of women supporting other women means she should be able to walk into PTA and be friendly and attractive and other women should want to be her friend, and it's not working. That's weird, and you don't need to be arrogant or condescending to not be into that.[/quote]

Did the OP say she was attractive? No, she did not. See, this is where it becomes really clear that you’re super triggered here and are reading things into the OP’s post that aren’t there. It’s apparent that you’re one of the grown up mean girls who just wants to continue being arrogant and nasty because you cannot stand the thought of another woman being kind and beautiful. [/quote]

She described herself as having had a "glow up" in the context of talking about why she was surprised and upset that other women didn't want to be her friend.

I'm actually someone who would never expect to be able to walk into a PTA and make friends. And that's totally fine, and I'm not judging anyone for not wanting to be my friend, because I'm a grown up and I can make friends in other places. [/quote]

You’re so triggered. A glow up can refer to confidence or the way you perceive the world and relate to it. And she never once said other women don’t want to be her friend. She doesn’t understand why many people gravitate toward meanness over kindness. It actually sounds like she has plenty of friends and is more curious why some people are stuck in and attracted to unhealthy people. [/quote]

She has no idea what people are gravitating to. She provided no examples of meanness. All she is able to observe is that what she is bringing does not translate into social capital, and that she feels other women are being insufficiently supportive. If she felt good about her ability to make friends in general, she would not care if this specific group of women didn't want to be her friend. And actual kindness is not about an expectation that will it translate into popularity. [/quote]

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